Well, actually, I do. In fact, I need your help, yet something is off....
Whenever possible, give people the help for which they ask, being considerate of your capacity/comfort zone. This may differ greatly from the help you think they need.
Remember, they have their own Higher Power, and you are not it. Trust their Higher Power is protecting, and guiding them, and allow them their sanctified experience. Their process and timing are Divine. Divinity is a full-spectrum show, including what we might perceive as dark and horrid.
Your idea/agenda for them is not better than that of their Higher Power, though you might be put to action by the Divine, as support and/or messenger. It can be challenging to know when it is your will, verses you being utilized by the Divine to create a blessing for another.
There are ways to tell, most often revealed by the response of the egoSelf.
WHEN IT IS YOUR WILL:
-your feelings get hurt when your offer/help is declined
-you keep score of the help you give and get
-you are attached to outcomes (expectations)
-you feel you must save the other
-you feel self-righteous
-you resent the other person
-you hold a judgment of them
WHEN IT IS A HIGHER POWER's WILL:
-you don't take it personally if they do or don't accept your offer/help
-you retain no physical or mental record of what you have done for another
-you are unattached to outcomes
-you know you are not the only one who can help. If not you, HP will utilize another to assist as necessary
-you feel humble
-you accept the other person, without condition
-you trust things are as they are intended to be, regardless of your involvement
It can be hard to watch a beloved other spiral downward, knowing they are in pain. We see it from the outside perspective, often conjuring many solutions. Some, tried and true in our own experience. But there is one solution we know nothing about: the timely reveal of the inner truth of our beloved spiraling person. We can't see or presume to know their inner-truth. Only they can, and in some cases (many really) that truth only becomes apparent against the backdrop of what might, to us, appear to be delusion, despair and/or destruction. Yet, 'the bottom' is a valid and valuable place to arrive. It makes it clear (yes, often painfully) which direction is up, one way or another. Pain is a gift. It informs us change is due.
If you feel inclined to help someone, but have not been invited or Divinely lead to do so, there is still something wonderful you can do.
Three things, specifically:
1. Envision them knowing what they need, and having the courage to ask for it.
2. Envision them able to receive.
3. Envision them receiving the help they most need with Divine timing.
Holding such a vision for another is a beautiful way to hold a support space which does not force anything onto the other, time, energy, or other wise. It is important the vision be free of the ego's intent. You must be rooted in love, unattached to outcomes. If there is evidence you are acting of your ego's will, first envision yourself aligned with a Higher Power sourced will (refer to list above). This creates a more deeply empowered envisioning.
Commence envisioning. Feel the love!
When we push the timing of another,
we can become a boulder in their divine flow.
May their flow be blessed to stream with ease, around us,
the way the river water effortlessly navigates the course
of the seemingly unforgiving rapids.
Of the water, the river's boulders are indeed forgiving,
and so can you be, as you are by-passed.
Simply hold the space, and be a witness,
as the greatest boulders have always done.
My, how those boulders have changed....
gradually smoothing edges, new layers, colors,
content revealed, caressed by infinite particles of water.
Water so ancient, having manifested in so many forms,
so many places, beyond our imaginings.
What wisdom has the water?
What is it's destination? (destiny)
Can we even perceive the blessing of simply being present in it's flow?
Yes. The blessing is felt when in full Presence. In full Presence, there is no agenda. This is a glorious gift.
RECEIVE~
A Clearheart, aGLO
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